Life of Blogger ~ Fears

Posted August 28, 2014 by Michelle in Memes / 13 Comments

lifeofbloggerA weekly feature hosted by Jessi @ Novel Heartbeat. Each week Jessi will choose a subject and I will talk about that subject in my life. The topics will be non-bookish so that you can get to know me on a more personal level!

See the full list of topics HERE.

This weeks Topic: Fears

I was really looking forward to doing this one because I thought it could be an intervention for myself or maybe just getting it out there will make me over come it a lot fast then waiting until it’s to late.

I was going to go with the typical Spider or maybe even the dark, I can even go as far as saying losing my children. They are legitimate fears I have but I think the one that gets me the most and holds be back from what I want the most is the fear of failure. I will try very hard not to go off topic but my fear of failure comes from my lack of confidence I have in myself. Did you know I want to start a design business that helps bloggers make headers, logos and other cool stuff for their blogs? But I am so scared I will fail at it that I have written down a few times what I want to do, I just keep putting it aside because I am so scared no one is going to like it? Did you know I want to start designing covers for first time authors? But again that stupid fear of failure creeps in and I talk myself out of doing it. I have so many ideas that have been put asides because I fear that I will fail at it.

I know someone (Berls) is reading this and she is going insane because honestly she is my biggest pusher when it comes to all of this and without her backing my ideas (most of them) would have never happened. She is always telling me to stop talking myself out of doing things and actually pushed me to turn a feature I have into a Meme because I don’t think I would have done it if she didn’t push me. I don’t know were this fear came from since I actually think I am really good at what I do and think I have good ideas. The biggest risk I ever did was starting this blog because again I could fail but I really do it because I love it so much and even if I did fail I was just glad I took the chance. So why can’t I do that for my design stuff or my ideas? I don’t know. One day I want to write a book….guess what’s holding me back 🙁

I am hoping that one day this fear will go away and the only thing I have to fear are nasty spiders dropping from the ceiling on my head in a dark room…..Ahhhh just freaked myself out 😉

I’m sure you have a fear, does it prevent you from doing all the stuff you want to do?

Have a great week!



About Michelle

I am a mom to two pretty amazing kids, four pretty cute fluffy children and a wife to one adorable husband. I am a gamer, reader and a graphic designer with 20 years experience. I recently started my own business "Limabean Designs" to help other bloggers, authors and anyone else create amazing things that they would be proud to show off. I have been reading since forever and started blogging because I love sharing all the awesome books this world has to offer. I am also the co-host for the COYER Challenge, Reading Assignment Challenge and the Bookish Resolutions Challenge. I try to create a warm welcoming environment on my blog where authors, readers, and bloggers will have a great time. Let’s chat books, games, blogging, recipes, design, or family over a cup of coffee and a glass of wine!



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13 responses to “Life of Blogger ~ Fears

  1. From what I’ve seen elsewhere, you already did a great job ! I can understand your fear, but maybe you need to find something to help you deal with it : relaxation, yoga, sophrology, stuff like that : it doesn’t make the fear disappear, but it does tone it down. If you are really aware that you’re good at this job, maybe too you need to find the root of that fear, is there anything in your past that may have caused it ? It’s good that Berls is here to support and push you 🙂

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    • I am not sure where it comes from but I have been looking into Yoga I think it would help me relax a lot more then just a little bit of quiet time every once in a while. She is a very good pusher 🙂

  2. I think the fear of failure is a common fear, Michelle. I know I experience it…a lot. I’m glad you have someone to push you to do things – make your ideas/dreams a reality. I like the quotes “The master has failed more times than the beginner has ever tried.” and “What would you attempt to do if you knew you could not fail?” We will never know what we can do unless we try. 🙂

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  3. I think we all have this fear. But you know, if we don’t take these fears and challenge them, we never know what we’ll end up with. It was so scary to publish my book on my own, and now it’s scary to write a sequel. It’s like…will it every be good enough? Will I be good enough?

    The best thing you can do for yourself is tell yourself how awesome you are, how much you love yourself, even if it is hard at first…because conquering these fears starts with self love.

    And you can do it! Because you ARE awesome. And you have a passion for books and authors. Don’t pay attention to what others are saying. Do what you want because you want to. That’s what matters.

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    • Thank you 🙂 I think the book was awesome and the sequel will be even awesomer Lol I can’t wait for it!!! I do love myself but I always second guess what I do and I don’t know why.

      I think that’s my biggest problem is being worried about what everyone else thinks and It really doesn’t matter it should be what makes me happy 🙂 <3

  4. I totally understand this fear, but I’ll never stop pushing you because you have great ideas and I figure if you can’t believe in yourself at least I can believe in you 😉 It’s scary to take a chance on yourself and your ideas (how do you think I feel with my writing?) but I also figure it would seriously suck to not give myself a shot. Ditto for you 😉 XOXO

    • LOL thank you for believing in me and my crazy ideas 🙂 But you made the book think look so easy!!! I would hunt you down you didn’t finish that book, it must be finished!!!

  5. Ahh, you can do it. Want to start with mine…lol. 🙂 When I get started with my job it’s one of the things I want to try and save up for..I like but not love my blog header and I hate the plain background but have no clue how to change it. I can’t afford anything so I just leave it as is. 🙁 If you have been doing design for as long as you have I am sure you will be very successful but I understand the fear of failure.

    See I want to be a writer and I have this really cool idea for a werewolf horror, but I keep putting it off cause if I finish it then I have to let someone read it and what if I really suck at it. 🙁 I have great ideas but what if I can’t put it on paper. 🙁 So I totally understand.

    • Lol I would love to make you a header and help you with the backgrounds and such, I just don’t know how to do it with HTML I know how to do it by just piecing it all together. but I would be happy to help you when you are ready.

      I totally think you should write it, you will be surprised how the story unfolds. I started writing something and it is amazing how the story just pops into your head. It’s weird Lol

  6. You really should start that design business, I am sure you can do it! Starting a business and maintaining it can be hard, but it’s also worth it. If you ever need any help or advice about the business part, you can always ask me, maybe I can help you. Think about it a lot before you start is good, but eventually you have to start doing it. It’s really hard at first when you have no customers yet, but as long as you keep trying and working the customers will come eventually.

    I was afraid at first too when I had the idea of starting Lola’s Blog Tours and now Lola’s Blog Tours is almost a year! And I am so happy I took the chance and started my own business.

    Fears can be so annoying I have a lot fears and they can really prevent me from doing what I want sometimes. I fear not having control, dogs, orca’s, heights, small spaces without windows, airplanes and more. My fear of not having control, my fear of dogs and heights can be pretty annoying on a daily basis. Everywhere outside are dogs and I just wish I could get over that fear, I think dogs are adorable, but I just can’t over that fear. When I was job searching I had a few interviews in high buildings or I had to take an elavator and freaked out, not a good start for a job interview. My fears also prevent me from taking risks and I can panic easily when things aren’t going according to plan or I feel like i don’t have control over a situation.

    • I have started writing stuff of for the design stuff but not it’s a matter of finishing it and getting it going 🙂 I have a fear of closed spaces and I hate airplanes. I would prefer to drive if I can.

  7. Ah yes, I can definitely relate to the fear of failure. I want to eventually have my own blog design business, but I have to learn coding first, and I just…haven’t. I tried to learn PHP and it’s just so daunting and difficult that I quit trying for months and haven’t had the desire to pick it back up. 🙁

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    • I know coding just not how to piece it together to create a website but I also never tried to do it. It’s my biggest downfall and I hope to over come it since it stops me from doing so much.