News at Home: On the Mend
So I had surgery on Tuesday… yes it was planned and I deliberately didn’t say anything. In fact, part of me never intended to say anything. But now that I’m on the mend, I realize that was coming from a place of fear that the surgery wouldn’t happen more than anything. Though fear of judgment did factor in and still does – though not really from this online community 🙂
I had gastric bypass – hence the fear of judgment. We live in a world where being overweight is too often summed up as being lazy and unable to control your eating choices and so those of us who end up severely overweight – like myself – often get judged by those standards. And yet, anyone who really knows me, knows that I don’t fit into the description at all. I’m extremely active and – while I’ll admit to making some bad food choices, they are no worse than those I see skinny people making way more often than I do. That doesn’t change the fact that some people, the second they hear I had gastric bypass will look at me as too lazy to do it on my own or “taking the easy way out” (which, it SO ISN’T BTW). And it’s why I’m definitely still hesitant to share the information with everyone. I haven’t told work, for example. My team knows I had surgery, but not what I had done.
Anyway, the main reason I hadn’t told y’all was that I was afraid it wouldn’t happen. I’ve been struggling with my weight… well my whole life really, but severely struggling and considering this option for at least 12 years. Over those years I’ve had insurance deny my coverage more than once, because they either just only saw it as elective/cosmetic surgery or the hoops they had to jump through were un-achievable. Well this year I finally got on a plan that covers the surgery and had reasonable hoops. Now picking this plan meant my husband and I were virtually uncovered for everything else this year – 5000 deductible, 6650 out of pocket each – and since part of the hoops were a lot of tests, it meant spending a pretty decent chunk of change. And then the co-pay is $5k for the surgery. So yeah, all in all y’all this ended up costing me a little over $9k. But Monday night, I went to bed having spent this colossal amount of money, not certain surgery would actually happen the next morning. Because the surgeon’s office I worked with from October to July are apparently in the business of pushing people through approvals, taking monthly visit costs, but not actually doing the surgery. They then send us out to surgeon’s actually doing the surgery… and of course they don’t tell you that until the end of the process. So I found out in July that my surgeon was not the one in the office I’d been working with for months. And I didn’t get to meet my surgeon until Monday… yeah, the day before surgery.
Y’all it was terrifying and unsettling, but the best thing. I landed one of the best surgeon’s I think I could have hoped for. He’s old-school, meaning he has stricter requirements than some of the other surgeon’s out there now. He’s been doing the surgeries for 17 years and doesn’t play around. He kept me in the hospital two nights, while most only keep you one. I wanted to go home, but he did it because he doesn’t want to send you home until he’s SURE you’re ready and won’t hurt yourself. He standard keeps people two nights and ALMOST let me go home after one, but didn’t like the difficulty I was having getting down my 5oz every hour, so made me stay. I love his office staff- his nurse practitioner gave me her cell phone number so I could call or text anytime with questions or concerns – and she replies immediately. So it was a rough situation and I wish I’d been with his office from the start, but at least where it matters most – the surgery and after care – I have a really good doctor and staff.
Anyway – that’s been my entire week. I got home Thursday and really all I do is spend my time trying to follow all the rules to recovery! The hardest thing has been Buffy – first leaving her for two nights and then coming home and not being able to pick her up and hug her. She knows something’s up and she’s confused and hating being locked in my mom’s room at night instead of sleeping with me. Can’t wait to be healed so I can catch her up on all the loving! She’s still getting plenty of petting from me and cuddling from everyone else, but she’s MY girl, so its hard on her.
I go in on Monday to get staples removed and then Wednesday I actually go back to work for teacher in-service, so fingers crossed I keep mending quickly!
Nothing much to report, except that I didn’t get quite as much blogging done during my recovery days as I thought I would. Recovery is more work than anticipated and taking more time that I thought – meaning less time for blogging.
Well obviously this past week has been ALL about fitness 🙂
My diet up until the surgery was liquids only – up to 1000 calories with a goal of 100 g of protein daily and I stayed within that just fine.
Post surgery the goal is to get in 48 oz of liquid every day and 40 g of protein – minimum. And I’m struggling to get that in. Tuesday was nothing – not even water – and I wanted water so badly because my mouth was dry. But then Wednesday I finally could have water and I literally was done after 1 ounce. Like, yeah, do I have to drink more? My esophagus was pretty swollen and basically only a trickle was going through at a time. It wasn’t until Thursday that I could actually drink 1 oz at a time – all day Wednesday I was sipping out of these little 1 oz cups. I’m still drinking out of them – the goal is to get at least 5 oz an hour, so I drink an ounce of water and wait like 10 minutes and then I have an ounce of protein drink. And then ten minutes later some water or skim milk. 1 oz at a time, all day. I can’t stomach more than that at a time right now and some hours I only get in a couple ounces. But I’m getting better at it – skim milk goes down best and it has protein, so it’s a win!
As far as exercise – I did my workouts Sunday and Monday this past week. Since surgery it’s been about getting up every couple hours to move around. This was actually easier in the hospital because there was a long hallway that they encouraged us to do laps on. So on Tuesday I did 1 lap out there, like 2 or 3 times. Wednesday I worked up to doing between 4 and 7 laps each time. On Thursday, it fell back down to 5 laps (which is a half mile according to my Fitbit) because they took me off my IV Wednesday evening. They took me off my IV because the surgeon wanted to force me to start getting my liquids on my own (lol!) but the side consequence was I lost that support of something to hold on to while I was walking. I meant I could move faster and less encumbered, but got tired after fewer laps.
Since being home I’m doing good about getting up – I’m doing every hour instead of every other hour – mainly because I don’t have the space to walk like that. And there’s only so many laps you can do of a tiny space before you lose your mind. But I’m sticking to it because it’s important to prevent blood clots. I’m giving myself shots to prevent blood clots, twice a day, but I don’t want to depend on them and have something bad happen.
Surprisingly, I haven’t lost a thing yet. But hopefully that will change once I’m done healing up a bit.
Last Week on the Blog
- [7 Aug] Midnight in Death by J.D. Robb ★★★
- [8 Aug] The Secret of the India Orchid (Proper Romance) by Nancy Campbell Allen ★★★★
- [9 Aug] National Book Lovers Day! #giveaway
- [10 Aug] 44 Chapters About 4 Men by B.B. Easton ★★★½
- [11 Aug] The Woman in Cabin 10 by Ruth Ware ★★★★★
- [12 Aug] My TBR List August 2017 Pick
- [12 Aug] My To-Be Read List Winner for August is…
- [12 Aug] Sunday Post with Berls | On the Mend
- [13 Aug] Vacation was fun, now back to work ~ WIR & SP
Coming Next Week From Me
My TBR List Winner
Sunday Post with Berls | On the Mend
Conspiracy in Death #audioreview
Top Ten recommendations for becoming an Audiobook Addict
It’s Monday! What Are You Reading? is a place to meet up and share what you have been, are and about to be reading over the week. This meme started with J Kaye’s Blog and then was taken up by Sheila from Book Journey. Sheila then passed it on to Kathryn at the Book Date. And here we are!
I just finished…
Nothing. My reading has been much slower than I thought it would be post surgery!
I’m still reading F*ck Club: Con by Shiloh Walker. I’m enjoying it a lot, but it’s slow going because I fall asleep everytime I start to read lately.
And I’m still working on Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix. I really thought I’d be finished by now, but again, I keep drifting off to sleep!
For my Miracle Morning self-improvement read I’m still working on Teaching with Love and Logic. I read only a few pages each morning, so I expected to still be reading this one.
Let’s see if I can just finish these huh?