The one with the mom drama
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Today was mostly a lazy day – the best sort. Dante slept until 8:30, making for a great lie in. After breakfast, I did some Buffy the Vampire Slayer binge watching, along with some blogging. Then it started to snow! I hate the snow and any cold, wet weather in general, but since this is the first snow of Dante’s life I actually was a little excited to show it to him. He smiled at it and then was done. LOL! Thankfully it didn’t stick and I don’t think we’ll have any more any time soon. I left super early due to the weather (which Texans do not know how to drive in) for my vaccine. It actually didn’t take that much longer to get there. I got my 2nd dose of the Pfizer vaccine and am now working on my 95% immunity!
I stopped at Target on the way home and bought Dante some more pants – he keeps out growing his! When I got home, Dante was awake and apparently refusing his nap. So we played, I did some blog visits, and I watched some more Buffy, including the best/worst episode “The Body.” After dinner my arm was sore from the shot, so I took some Tylenol. The arm pain was the worst side effect last time, so I’m getting ahead of it this time.
Today was a decent day. Work was steady and I kind of got an update on the promotion. I say kind of, in that my replacement is set to start February 1. It’s a bit disconcerting because I haven’t yet received an official offer. My boss said last week that they were working on salary. But basically, they’re assuming I’ll take whatever I’m offered, right? And I mean, it’s basically true, but now negotiating will be very awkward. You already hired someone else, so what am I supposed to say? Technically, they could rescind her offer, but what a mess that would be. So I guess I’ll be hearing about my offer soon though? I do know from last week’s discussion that my boss is trying to get me as much as she can. And maybe that’s the reason why they aren’t worried about negotiating, because she’s going to bat for me already? I was bcc’d on an email and she really is, that much I do know.
On the home front, Dante napped for 2.5 hours, so yay! And I had a good health day, although I woke up 2 lbs heavier again. grrr! On the searching for childcare front, I found out we have a benefit through my job that I can get 8 days of childcare per year – it’s a backup childcare program. It’s for daycare centers at $25/day or in home care for $7/hour. It’s still a backup option because daycare isn’t high on the list with COVID and we don’t feel great about having a stranger in the home. But it’s something! I’m going to work on all the paper work this week so I can figure out exactly how it works.
I was busy off and on today. In the off time, I perused Tantor’s list of books and requested a few too many. But I cut way back from my original list lol! Dante took forever to go to sleep but he did finally nap for about 2 hours. And during that time I was off work, so I got a lot of blogging done – some visiting, a few posts and reviews.
My boss messaged to ask me about many years experience I’d say I have for her to work on my salary tomorrow at a meeting she has with talent acquisition. I appreciate her efforts but I find it so annoying that they have to play these games. She should be able to determine salary without them playing these games, just based on the position and my worth to the department. I hope this means that I will hear something tomorrow or Thursday at least.
Well today was emotionally trying. Remember how on the 1st my mom called and I had this huge battle with myself of whether or not I should take a chance and help her (if you want the whole run down check out January 3rd’s Sunday Post)? Well I landed on no, because she can’t be trusted. And today I got the proof that I was right. She called me and at first, I didn’t answer. I was working and just didn’t need her drama. But then she called again, so I answered, thinking it was an emergency. Maybe she was making he escape and needed an Uber or something. Very long story short, no she was not making her escape. She’s still with him. She “can’t” leave him. I pretty much told her I was done and that she’d made her choice and she needed to live with it. There were more words, but that’s the end of it all – she choose a man who has destroyed her, stolen from her, beats her, etc. over a relationship with her children and grandchild. And I’m done. I then got back to work, but had a very hard time concentrating. I had a headache all day – still do at 8 p.m.
I just so happened to have therapy today – good timing – and by the end of the session I resolved I can’t keep putting myself through this. I’m not answering if she calls anymore. I’ll text only. On the plus, my therapist helped me to realize that I can be proud of myself. I’m doing what my parents failed to do and breaking the cycle. I’m putting care for Dante first. I’m making sure that he we always know that he’s loved, safe, provided for. I’ll make mistakes, but he’ll never wonder my motivations. Every decision is based on my love for him and desire to keep him happy, safe, and healthy. I wish I could say the same. But i do feel at peace with my resolve. I’m going to try and get to sleep a little early. I’m going to take some Tylenol PM and hopefully get a some good rest tonight.
Stress would be the best way to describe today. My mom called AGAIN. And I did as planned, I didn’t answer, I sent a text “Please text me.” She left a voicemail (I’m assuming before she saw my text) saying she was out of the room, had called 911, and needed an Uber someplace safe because he took all her money. She said she was going to call my brother. He also didn’t answer. After I heard the voicemail I texted him. He also hadn’t answered. He tried calling her, no answer. While we were trying to decide what to do – while also working our jobs – she texted us the same thing she’d left in voicemail. So Phil sent her an Uber and since he didn’t know where she should go – not one of our places! – he sent her to the mall. with her cat. LOL! But the point was to get her someplace safe. Then she was like, “where do I go now?” and we’re like, “Um… I don’t know.” I sent her the domestic abuse hotline number again… because really, they are her best option. She said she would call them. Meanwhile she’s called a friend and they’re picking her up. Part of me is wondering what friends she has? Anyway long story short she asked us for money because she won’t have any until Monday and we agreed that was not a good idea. We asked her what she needed, thinking we’d pay for a hotel room and grocery delivery, but no way were we giving her money. Then she said she was okay her friend would help her. So…. yeah, I have like 1% hope and 99% question of this was an elaborate scheme to get money from us that didn’t work. I hope I’m wrong but yeah, 1% hope.
Meanwhile, work is going insane. We’ve been waiting since September for The Joint Commission to announce our Comprehensive Stroke Survey. They announced it today – it will be January 26-27. Which means rather than having to go in to work 1 time a week starting in February, I have to go in two full days. And I have to be there by 6:30 am meaning that backup daycare really isn’t even an option (they open at 6:30). So Kiko’s going to have to take off without pay – his job gives vacation time on your anniversary date (his is April 20) and you have to use it by the end of the calendar year. Meaning he has no time until January – April. So childcare stress just got way more intense. Not to mention he’s on call that week, so I HAVE to be home by like 5:30 the latest. And that doesn’t even include the shit ton of work that just landed on my plate to get ready for the survey. STRESS.
Oh and did I mention the headache is back? 2 more Tylenol PM and a glass of wine tonight! I think the headache is actually Pfizer side effect. In the scope of things, totally worth it.
Oh and Dante did not nap today. *sigh*
Considering the week I’ve had, today was good. I got most my work done – although I do have OT because I couldn’t get done before 3:15. And since I worked late almost every day this week, I was supposed to finish at 2:15. Dante was very fussy today, but he did nap for 1 hour. And that 1 hour was after I finished work, meaning I got to relax and read that whole hour. When he woke up he was fussy and still tired, and ended up cuddling on me for about 10 minutes which was really nice and peaceful. And then he was grumpy. I gave him his tablet. I know, poor form but I have no energy. I turned on Married at First Sight to watch the rest of the premiere (this is my first time watching it as it airs instead of binge watching an old season). When Kiko came home we ordered in dinner and watched the newest episode of Hell’s Kitchen. And I plan to have another glass of wine tonight and get a good night’s sleep. No headache today, so I’m glad to be able to skip the Tylenol PM.
This morning Dante let me sleep until about 7:30 which was grand. We hung out, had breakfast, and I had a nice chat with a friend. Then my brother called to tell me mom had called him last night. She’s back with Scott and they’re getting married apparently. I am SO DONE. I blocked her on my phone and I’m just done. I can’t take it anymore. Then we talked to my stepson and headed out to their house to spend the afternoon. It’s an hour drive, but there was traffic so it took closer to 1.5 hours. Dante napped the whole way. We had a great time – they all had COVID over Christmas making them safe for the next 5 months or so. It’s nice to be able to hang without stress (I have my vaccine but no one else does). After the week I had and with so many people to watch Dante, I got OFF MY ASS DRUNK. I haven’t been drunk like that in years. Me, my stepson’s mom and his older brother had shots and long islands. We danced and played pool and I just let the stress out. Then I sobered up and we drove home, getting home about 11:30 pm. And I’m quickly typing this before bed…. so NIght!
Last week on Because Reading
- [12 Jan] Tell Me Something Tuesday: Word of the year
- [13 Jan] Midnight Sun by Stephenie Meyer ★★★★½
- [14 Jan] Betwixt: A Beechwood Harbor Collection: Volume Two by Danielle Garrett ★★★★
- [14 Jan] Cupid in a Bottle by Danielle Garrett ★★★
- [14 Jan] Tide Dance by Danielle Garrett ★★★★
- [14 Jan] A Very Beechwood Christmas: Four Festive Magic Mini Mysteries from Beechwood Harbor by Danielle Garrett ★★★★
- [15 Jan] A Darker Shade of Magic by V.E. Schwab ★★★★
- [15 Jan] A Gathering of Shadows by V.E. Schwab ★★★★½
- [15 Jan] A Conjuring of Light by V.E. Schwab ★★★★★
- [16 Jan] Always in Trouble by Corinne Demas, Noah Z. Jones ★★★★
- [16 Jan] This Book Is Not About Dragons by Shelley Moore Thomas, Fred Koehler ★★★★★
- [16 Jan] The Storybook Knight by Helen Docherty, Thomas Docherty ★★★★★
- [17 Jan] Sunday Post with Berls | The one with the mom drama
I’m participating in 4 reading challenges this year. Here’s how I’m doing:
Backlist Reader hosted by Lark @ Bookwyrms Hoard: I read 2 books this week and they both count. Total for the year: 3
COYER (Fall) hosted by Because Reading:I read 1 book this week that counted. Total for the year: 1
COYER READATHON: Both the books I read this week count toward the readathon.
FitReaders (hosted by Jen @ That’s What I’m Talking About & Felicia The Geeky Blogger)
I’m keeping a scorecard to track my fitness goals. It’s something my nutritionist suggested to help me move past my perfectionism. My current goal is to get to 60 points a week – something I can do without doing perfect every day. I’ll share my scorecard with you below.
My big goal for 2021 is to get down to my goal weight. It means losing 70 pounds this year. It’s a lot, but I’ve done more in the past and if I just focus I know I can at least get close. My day-to-day goals will fluctuate and appear in the scorecard below. I will comment on my goals (where relevant) in the my weekly update above.
Added to My Shelf
I’m trying to be more responsible about keeping track of the books I acquire, so I’m going to start sharing them again. If I share them here, surely I’ll remember to add them to Goodreads, right?