Sunday Post with Berls | The one with the nap confusion

Posted January 3, 2021 by Berls in The Sunday Post / 10 Comments


The one with the nap confusion

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News at Home

The short version

This week I binged Buffy, was more confused than ever about Dante’s naps, interviewed my replacement at work even though I haven’t actually been promoted, met my Goodreads reading goal, finished cataloging ALL my books into Goodreads, had mom drama, found out my step-son and family have COVD, and generally started 2021 on the wrong foot. Read below for the full details. Items that made the short version are in bold.


Today was busy and lazy all in one. I started the day relaxing with Dante, doing breakfast and continuing my binge watching of Buffy the Vampire Slayer. Then I picked up groceries – which is my weekly break. It’s about 1 hour of sitting in the car, listening to an audiobook and worrying about nothing while I stop and get loaded up with groceries. After getting home and putting groceries away, I did some work adding books from Audible to my Goodreads. I’m trying really hard to get that done so I can start with everything organized for 2021. And some more Buffy watching.

Dante napped for about 1.5 hours today, continuing to keep me confused about his sleep patterns. I did some work in my Panda planner today too – getting it set with my goals for 2021, the first quarter and just next week. There’s some good exercises in there to really help you think through your goals. And that’s about it – besides dreading going back to real life tomorrow. Kiko is off, so it should be better. But I think he and I have different ideas of what his watching Dante while I work will look like. So we’ll see.


Today went really well. I woke up and did my workout and miracle morning routine (meditation, gratitude, visualizing, self-improvement reading, and affirmations). Dante slept until almost 8 and hung out happily in his crib until about 8:10 when I was done with what I had to get done for work. After some quick morning cuddles and a story (he now wants a morning story every day and bookworm that I am, I love him loving books), I went back to work and he played. By time I was starting to get breakfast going Kiko was up and took over. I grabbed my breakfast and disappeared into the bedroom where I worked all day while Kiko took care of Dante. I did leave the door open when I wasn’t in meetings so Dante could wander in, but if he started getting demanding Kiko grabbed him and closed the door. I’m getting spoiled again… going back to working AND watching Dante next week is going to be hard. But one day at a time.

Dante did not nap today, which surprised me since he woke up earlier than normal. I’m mystified. *sigh* I do’t know if I’ll be figuring this out any time soon. After work I had my therapy session – went so well, despite it being several weeks that I decided I’m ready to go to every two weeks now, instead of every week. I’ve come a long way this year, despite the stressors of 2020. After therapy Dante and I danced (I found some great baby wearing dances on YouTube), then it was time for some Buffy, dinner, playtime, clean up and bedtime. Just grabbed a shower and going to do some blogging before bed. Hoping to get some visiting in – I’ve been seriously slacking on that (sorry!).


Today was pretty much like yesterday. I did go to bed too late last night, though, so waking up this morning was hard. I’m trying to wrap up earlier tonight. My boss has already posted my position, had the person she’d been talking to apply for it, and we had a team interview today (all this happened in the past 24 hours!). It kind of freaked me out when I saw that we were doing a team interview already — I don’t have the promotion yet. We haven’t talked salary at all. So I did some salary research and made a plan for talking about it. I also need to bring up the coming to work 1 time a week thing – we haven’t been able to talk about it and it’s supposedly starting in 2021 (aka, next week). So I’m a little anxious with all these things to talk about with my boss!

I chatted with my brother for about an hour today which was really nice. He had lots of advice on the salary negotiation front which was very helpful. I mean, honestly, I’m going to take any raise – but I want to get myself up with a good raise, since it’ll be at least 6 months before I can hope for more. Dante napped for 2 hours today, continuing to befuddle me. He has doctor next Tuesday, I’m looking forward to asking them about his erratic napping behavior. I also got in some more of my audible books – I’m through page 12 of 17 of my audible library (20 books per page), so I think I’ll get finished by the end of the year. Fingers crossed!


Today was an easy day – two of my bosses were off so I had no meetings, plus Kiko is still off and helping with Dante. I got a lot of work done and was super productive, which felt great. Dante woke up later than normal – almost 9! And then he also took a 2.5 hour nap… so yeah, I also continue to be perplexed about his sleep. Nothing makes sense (you’d think the day he sleeps in would be the day he doesn’t nap, right?).

I emailed my boss asking her about expectations for me to come to the office since we never managed to talk about it and expressed that my concern is finding safe childcare for Dante that one day. With the way cases are rising around here (at one of the hospitals we support, the ICU is at capacity) I’m anxious about finding someone to watch him that won’t bring COVID into our home. She messaged me that we’d talk about it, but that she’s also been watching the numbers. So I think maybe I’ll get a little more time, until things improve.

I finished adding all my Audible books to Goodreads today! Which means I can do the books on my physical shelves tomorrow and finish by the end of the year! Yay! And I met my Goodreads reading goal for the year today – finishing my 100th book.


Today was a short work day because I had a bit of OT. Plus, half the team was off, so I didn’t have a lot of work coming at me. Just took care of some projects that had been sitting on the back burner. Plus, Kiko was still off, so I wasn’t on Dante duty. Speaking of Dante, he woke up about 8 am (so normal time) and didn’t nap today. We put him down, but he hung out in his crib for about an hour playing and then started fussing… so yeah, continue to be perplexed. By dinner time though he was tired. At dinner he alternatively ate and cried. It was kind of funny actually. He be crying as he scooped up some rice and then stuff it in his mouth. The crying would stop until he chewed and swallowed. He kind of picked at his food, but ate enough. He’s going to bed a wee bit early tonight – we’ll see how long it takes him to fall asleep.

And – I DID IT! Every single book I own (at least that I know of) is on Goodreads. What a project! I rediscovered a lot of books and series through this process and am going to try really hard to not buy too many this year – focus on the books I have (she says as she picked up 4 books already this week and joined Scribd lol). But seriously, books I own will be a focus. I may stop my Scribd subsription after the free trial – not sure. I feel like I can really use it for COYER book club picks though, so IDK.

I don’t plan on being up until midnight, I think my sleep is more valuable than a count down. So I’ll be having a glass or 2 of wine and then calling it a night. And a year. Whew and what a year it was!


Well, my new year is not off to the best start. I’m determined to not let it be a pattern for 2021, but whew what a day. Started off with my mom calling, which is rarely a good sign. I can’t remember if I’ve share the mid-life crisis that turned my problematic, but okay mom into an absolute disaster. Very long story short, a few years ago (when she was living with me) she got involved with a low life and ended up moving out into a place with him. It’s been up and down over the years with her saying she’s done with him because he’s abusive to saying we’re unreasonable for not accepting that she loves him and he is a good guy. Flash forward to 2019, after my brother and I have come to her aid numerous times only for her to run back to the abusive loser and I’m pregnant with Dante. Now it’s not about me anymore, it’s about protecting my then unborn son. So when I tell her I’m pregnant, I also tell her that until she untangles her life from this guy, our relationship will be phone calls only. Because he’s too dangerous. Basically, through a lot of fucked up twists and turns, she chose him. I’ve talked to her a handful of times since Dante was born and she met him at the hospital – a place I considered safe – and has really only seen him virtually since.

The background to explain why her calling is rarely a good thing. I don’t know why I still answer. Hope springs eternal or some shit. Well she said she’s trying to escape this guy. He’s taken all her money, beats her, she’s afraid of him, etc. I want to believe her. I want to help her. But we’ve been down this path before. And this guy is seriously dangerous – we’re talking drugs, guns, gangs, etc. I can’t put Dante at that risk. So I spent January 1st hemming and hawing over what I could do to help her if she’s serious this time vs how to keep my family safe. I ended with ultimately reminding her of the domestic abuse hotline and offering to pay for transportation (uber, lyft, etc) if she needed it. Anything else just puts us at too much risk. I can’t have her knowing where I live, for fear that he would find out or in one of her moments of trusting him, she told him.

Just as I made my peace with that, we got a phone call from Franky’s mom. Franky (my step-son) is positive for COVID. He’s feeling okay, but his brother-in-law (a severe asthmatic) and his step-dad (a diabetic), who both live with him are really sick. They haven’t actually tested positive, but it doesn’t take a genius to know they’re sick. Thankfully we were with them last 12 days ago now, so we’re in the clear, but doesn’t lessen the anxiety for them.

And then Kiko’s phone broke. We were able to get an old phone from Zach (my brother’s boyfriend), so that’s a relief. Honestly, in turned out to be a non-issue thanks to them having the old phone. But on a day like this, it just feels like it won’t stop. Oh and my Facebook got hacked. I’m pretty sure it was from a friend sending me a message that had a YouTube link, which I didn’t click because it looked suspicious. But then I think Dante clicked it because he LOVED YouTube. Also not a huge deal, but was annoying. And I’m getting to bed after midnight. Drowning myself in a glass of wine and going to sleep. Oh and Dante did not nap today. 


I was actually semi productive today. Picked up groceries, cleaned up the Christmas tree and decorations, and cleaned out our closet (9 bags of clothes to donate!). I’m still reeling from yesterday’s activities a bit and I feel it reflected in how emotionally drained I’m feeling. I spent  good part of the afternoon (while Dante napped 2 hours… still baffled) watch some more Buffy. Trying to shake it off and get ready for next week and focus on making 2021 a better year.

Blog News

Last week on Because Reading

Challenge update

I’m participating in 4 reading challenges this year. Here’s how I’m doing:

Backlist Reader: None this week

Library Love: None this week

New Release: None this week

COYER (Fall): None this week

FitReaders (hosted by Jen @ That’s What I’m Talking About & Felicia The Geeky Blogger)

I’m keeping a scorecard to track my fitness goals. It’s something my nutritionist suggested to help me move past my perfectionism. My current goal is to get to 60 points a week – something I can do without doing perfect every day. I’ll share my scorecard with you below.

My big goal for 2021 is to get down to my goal weight. It means losing 70 pounds this year. It’s a lot, but I’ve done more in the past and if I just focus I know I can at least get close. My day-to-day goals will fluctuate and appear in the scorecard below. I will comment on my goals (where relevant) in the my weekly update above.

I didn’t quite make my goal of 60 points (53 points two weeks running) and I’m up 4 pounds from where I started the week. Despite a decent start to the week, my ending kinda sucked.



Added to My Shelf

I’m trying to be more responsible about keeping track of the books I acquire, so I’m going to start sharing them again. If I share them here, surely I’ll remember to add them to Goodreads, right?

How was your week? What are you Reading?

About Berls

Michelle adopted me as part of her blog when I decided to close down my blog, Fantasy is More Fun. The blog was dying, but my love of reading and the blogosphere was still strong as ever - so I found my new home here at Because Reading!

I'm not just a book lover, but a one time author (that hopes to be more in the future), wife, mom to the cutest, happiest, best 2 year old and step-mom to the craziest, sweetest 22 year old on the planet. My family mean everything to me and they appear frequently in the Sunday Post with Berls. So grab a glass of wine and chat books, blogging, and family with me!



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10 responses to “Sunday Post with Berls | The one with the nap confusion

  1. Jen

    I hope you get the official promotion soon – that would make me nervous too. *HUGS* It’s been a rough start to the year for you. I am already lumping 2020 and 2021 together – at least the first couple months. It’s going to be a while to things start to turn around. Sending love to you and your family.

  2. Oy, what a week. Sorry to hear about the mom drama. What a position to be in. But you really do have to put your family’s safety first. And you’ve offered what you can. I hope your stepson recovers quickly and his symptoms are mild. It’s so scary.

  3. That was some week! 😕 I’m hoping this week is kinder to you! Sometimes when we make the best choice our hearts don’t get the memo and it’s still awful even when it’s for the best. I’m sorry.

    I LOVE your scorecard and I think it’s a really good idea.

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  4. You had quite the week, Berls! I hope your stepson and his family are doing well despite having COVID. I hope things work out well at work and you get the answers you need. We’ve been told at my work that we’ll continue on a rotating telework schedule even post-COVID, but I am not sure what that will look like. I hope your mom will get out and get help. I think you made the right decision, Berls. You have your son to think about.

    I hope you have a better week, Berls!

  5. WOW that was some week! It’s scary that people in your bubble have COVID. That’s why we don’t go out and just the two of us who live here are in our bubble. I hope they get better easily. You have lots of changes happening at work so take a deep breath, it sounds like they are going well though.

    I’m really excited you got all your books in your Goodreads and are all set for the new year plus success at your challenges. Happy New Year!

    Anne – Books of My Heart This is my Sunday Post

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  6. Yeah, that was an up and down week. Way to go on your GR shelf inventory being done. I know the tedious time spent on that project. Hopefully Dante’s sleep will fall back into a pattern and wishing your family well as they battle the Covid symptoms. Sounds like a solid approach with your mom’s issues, too. I’ve heard great things about Holidaze so enjoy. 🙂

    Have a good week, Berls!

  7. Congrats on reaching your book goal and getting everything shelved! Starting off the reading year right! 😀

    Sorry about Franky! My cousins had it in November and still insisted on coming for Christmas! They were better and had tested negative by then, but I still stayed in my room. Far away.

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  8. Sounds like a crazy hectic week! Sorry to hear about COVID striking your family. We were hit last week right before the holiday and it totally mucked all our plans. But yay for watching Buffy! That’s one of my favorite shows!

    Nice new reads too! These are all new to me ones but I hope you enjoy them all!

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    Have a GREAT day!

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