News at Home: Accepting my new normal
This week has really been about me accepting my new normal. I think I had an idea of how life-altering a child can be, but there is no preparing for it. Especially since there is no way of knowing what your child will be like and need. I think the biggest thing for me has just been learning to accept and gradually embrace my new way of life. Part of that is finding ways to make it still fit me and a lot of it is focusing on the joys of motherhood – and there are many.
A big part of making this new life fit me has been finding ways to get out of the house and interact with others. I NEED that. Sunday I went and did my nails in the morning and then we went to my brother’s for dinner and that was truly wonderful. The interaction, getting out of the house, and just feeling a bit like me. Plus, both Philip and his boyfriend held Dante for a bit, which was nice to see. Monday I spent some time on the phone with a friend and learned about a possible job opportunity that, if it works out, could radically improve things for my family. Unfortunately around 7pm Dante started fussing and we could not get him to stop. It was off and on all night. So I hit rock bottom Tuesday – I was a crying mess (and I’m not just talking about Dante) – and I spent the whole day just trying to figure out how to help him. Well, it seemed to pay off, as Dante has done a lot better the rest of the week. Yay!
Wednesday Dante turned 3 weeks old! We spent the day taking a couple walks and chatting with the apartment office staff (the manager is Kiko’s ex and a good friend). I’m starting to stop by the office 2 times a day now and getting that interaction is really helping me out. Thursday, Franky my step-son (19 years old) came over and spent the morning with us. He held Dante, fed him and came with us on a walk. We had lunch with the office staff – they were having a special lunch. It made for a really nice day. Friday I had my first treatment with my health coach – she’s like a reiki of sorts – and she did a treatment on Dante as well. Then I had my first real outing with Dante – I went out to lunch with the apartmen office ladies. It was just around the corner and only an hour, but it was FANTASTIC!!
And Kiko actually has off this weekend, so it’s been a good weekend, sharing Dante responsibility all day instead of being on my own. I went and got a wax, which is a not the most relaxing self-care choice, but it makes me feel like me, so it was nice. Plus, it meant I got out of the house without having to worry about Dante at all for about an hour. And I’m so tired, I actually did start to drift asleep on the wax table.
So I’m finding ways to get out and socialize. I’m also learning to accept that Dante will cry and that does not mean I’m failing as a mom, even when I can’t make it stop. Sometimes babies just cry and I have to accept it. This is hard for a perfectionist, but I’m getting there. I also am learning that for every tear I have the time cuddling him, with him looking up into my eyes with his amazing, wondering expression, and it’s fairly great. By refocusing on the positives I’m doing a lot better and enjoying my days a lot more.
I’m still back, so that’s a huge plus! I’m managing to write a post OR visit blogs every day, sometimes both. It feels great to be back and I hope I can keep it up long term.
We also have our Can You Read a Series in A Month? Challenge, coming in November. It’s one of my favorite challenges, I hope you can join us 🙂
Last Week on the Blog
- [7 Oct] I’m ready to binge read… Can you read a series in a month? #signup
- [7 Oct] Can you read a series in a month? Challenge. Michelle’s Series Pick #seriesinamonth
- [8 Oct] Task It Tuesday! ~ Organized and Blogging Check #Taskittues #joinme
- [9 Oct] Just a Few Pregnancy Books I Read
- [9 Oct] 50 Things to Do Before You Deliver: The First Time Moms Pregnancy Guide by Jill Krause, Sara A. Robert MD ★★★
- [9 Oct] The Girlfriends' Guide to Pregnancy by Vicki Iovine ★★★½
- [9 Oct] Pregnancy, Childbirth, And The Newborn (2016-5Th Edition) by Penny Simkin, Janet Whalley, Ann Keppler, Janelle Durham, April Bolding ★★★★
- [10 Oct] #FraterfestRAT Witch One Mini Challenge Giveaway
- [11 Oct] #FitReaders ~ Update October 1 – 5
- [12 Oct] #MyTBRL ~ October 2019 Winner
- [13 Oct] Sunday Post with Berls | Accepting my new normal
- [13 Oct] The Sunday Post ~ Slow down October!!! ~ Week in READview!
Coming Next Week From Me
Sunday Post with Berls
Wrong Number, Right Guy #audioreview
Read Me Romance | She’s the One
Fit Readers Update | October 6-12